I knew that would include surfing. And it has.
Baby Malu arrived at 7:21 am on Memorial Day after a 5 hours of labor that began with a harrowing, scream-filled, predawn ride along the Garden State Parkway from Lavallette to Riverview Medical Center. A week later, the family is thriving. Malu has gained a half pound, my wife, the D-bomb has lost 15 and the big sister announces every poop and sqeak with a joyful peal. I am overjoyed. But I’m also wondering when I’ll surf again.
When my first daughter was born, I had the same fears. And they proved unfounded. Thanks to my understanding wife (stay tuned for a future post in which I dispense priceless advice to all single surfers on this topic) and my own redoubled commitment, I have actually surfed more in the past two years since her birth than at any time in my life. In the first few weeks after the first kid arrived, I was often the first one in the water at dawn patrol. If we were awakened for a 3 or 4 am feeding, I would just help my wife settle the baby and then stay up and head to the beach. Baby Blaizy never let me miss a dawn patrol. But there was only one of her.
This past Sunday, my surfing dad status was put the test of dadhood times two. We woke for a 4 am feed (the third of the nighg) and the baby was finally settled at about 4:30. I could hear the robins singing outside the window. I remembered the buoy readings (7ft) and the forecast (light W winds) from the night before. I knew it could be good. But I couldn’t do it. With a toddler in the house, I knew there might not be a chance to sneak in a nap later in the day and close the sleep deficit. And I was just whooped. It was a no brainer. I couldn’t do it. I rolled over and fell back to sleep. It was a move that would have been completely unheard of just a few days before.
I haven’t surfed since the Mother’s Day nor’easter.
It’s not easy being a surfer here in New Jersey. We deal with so much – finicky swells, summer blackballs, the swell blocking intercontinental shelf. Hell, the friggin planet even spins the wrong way, sending swells away from us rather than toward us. Throw in parenthood and what you’ve got is a recipe for a personal surf drought of monumental proportions. I will figure this out, though. The kid will sleep through the night some day. The D-bomb and I will find our rhythm and establish a routine. And I’ll get back in the water. I have to. I have to.